Detachment, A Path to Happiness

Let go

MATERIAL DETACHMENT

I have never thought that things can actually make you cry. I thought the movies are exaggerating when a character loses someone and cries over the belongings of the dead. It’s not an exaggeration. It’s real. At least for me. We attach memories and a piece of the owner in inanimate objects. It’s not so much of the things that made people cry. Rather, it’s the memories.

Memories live in our head, not in things.

EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT

Suffering also comes from being attached to our emotions. I looked at the things my mother had and I felt a profound sadness. She just left this world so suddenly that it caught me off-guard. I kept thinking, “Is this real? How could this happen? She was fine.”

But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.

Detachment doesn’t mean we’re not acknowledging our feelings. It just means we understand that a feeling is just a feeling, which is a part of life, which we have to go through because life is all about experiencing and feeling. Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t feel emotions. It just means you let it in and then you let it out. You don’t hold it inside you. You let it pass.

Writer by heart. Teacher (English, Yoga, Pilates) by trade. Avid reader. World traveller. Model. You can reach me at agneslouis3108@gmail.com.

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