Hello, Pamela! It’s absolutely different. I love that you asked that question actually. What boggles me is your friend’s lack of empathy and understanding. She’s absolutely dismissing your feeling! I can’t say for other people but I have a rule I follow to ensure I’m being a good friend. First of all, I listen and when I say I listen, I mean I absolutely completely 100% listen without reserving judgment. Then, I put myself in my friend’s shoes and make a genuine effort trying to understand. It’s easy to dismiss others’ feelings when it’s not happening to us. I always make sure I asks myself “How would I feel if someone say this to me?”

Then I give input accordingly, after acknowledging my friend’s feelings. I don’t know how your conversation went with your friend. It might be that she’s just misinterpreting the situation. Did you tell her that her comment hurt your feelings? I think just because we have some things better than others in life, doesn’t mean we’re not entitled to negative feelings. That’s a wrong approach to gratitude I think. I hope this helps, love! ❤

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