How Can You Still Laugh?

Explaining my coping mechanism.

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My mother’s cold body was lying just a couple of feet in front of us.

The remark was even more painful when it came from my grandmother.

How can you still laugh? Your mother is dead.

Those who exhibited genuine smiles and laughs predicted less grief over time and evoked positive emotions in others. -George Bonanno

How could we laugh?

My mother is dead. How could I still laugh?

It wasn’t that I was happy and merry.

And I wasn’t the only one.

Because of how my mother was when she was still alive.

And there we were, standing amidst the sea of sorrow caused by mother’s sudden departure.

She had unknowingly become the source of all the pain for the people she had loved dearly.

We weren’t forcing ourselves to smile and laugh.

Just because we laughed, doesn’t mean we weren’t sad and grieving.

smiling and laughing in the face of adversity.

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