Someone just said my article is idiotic.
The weird thing is I don’t feel hurt or offended.
It was an article of mine about parenting. I stated that I’m not a parent yet and this person commented on that bit, saying that my article is idiotic and that I should try it again when I’m a parent.
Far from feeling upset, I actually felt intrigued.
Have I gotten something so wrong and so far off the mark?
It was an article based on my own observation of what’s happening in my family after my mother passed away.
I thought I’ve made quite a good point in the article. I mean, this piece was curated under Parenting by Medium…
I would like to make something clear through this piece.
If there is one thing I know for sure, it’s THERE ARE A LOT OF THINGS I DON’T KNOW.
That’s why I’m here in the first place.
I’ve been sharing my thoughts and views on issues that I think important and should be addressed. I’m trying my best to be a good, decent human being and for that to happen, I need your help.
I need you to teach me.
Teach me about the things I don’t know.
Teach me about things you think I should know.
Because I’m more than willing to learn.
Yes, I’m not a parent yet and I probably know next to nothing about parenting (I know a little from going to that one parenting class but this is of course, just a tiny weeny bit).
But I’m learning now because I have to and I want to. I have a young teenage brother who’s still growing up and in the process of forming his identity. I have another brother who had been — like me — very close to my mother and is now dealing with his own issues.
My father is learning too. He was not as involved as my mother in parenting because as I said in my previous writing, he had been wired that way by society.
You see, we are all a bit lost here and I’m trying to make sense of this whole situation through my writing.
It is probably an idiotic piece of writing. After all, I’m not a parent yet and I was writing about parenting. What do I know?
But that was my take in this whole issue. That’s what I think would fix the situation where I currently found myself in.
If you happen to have a better idea or an idea different from mine, then by all means, share it with me because I would really, really love to learn.
So to my dearest reader who had called my piece idiotic, thank you. Thank you for reminding me that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve known it for a while now but it’s always good to be reminded. At the present moment, I am unable to give you a better insight as you suggested I should try it again when I’m a parent.
Dealing with my grief of losing my mother and watching my brothers deal with theirs as my father struggles to deal with his has been a great lesson.
It really does take a village to raise a kid and I don’t think I’m ready for that.
I’ve learned so much about parenting from so many great writers here in Medium who share their parenting stories. To each and everyone of you, a sincere thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I am no expert in parenting. I know that.
I still have a lot to learn and I know that too.
So please, teach me.
Teach me so I can be a better person.