Agnes, sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. It’s sounds as though you have a similar relationship to me. I agree it is about quality of contact— although these days when I call it is because I know she is keeping older and so I should keep in touch.
I also think a little distance is healthy for families — you shouldn’t be living in each others pockets — this includes siblings as well as parents. And it does make for better relationships overall. For instance, I tend to make short visits home frequently rather than go for a extended stay once a year. Everyone can get along for a week or so I find :)
Thank you for your condolences. You’re saying exactly what I feel! And yes, I do feel distance is healthy for a family relationship. We lead different lives, have different lifestyles and so we tend to disagree on things at time. I think having our own space is very important to maintain a good relationship.
You’re most welcome and thank you for replying! You’re the first person who voices the same sentiment I have about this topic. It’s really good to know that there are others who feel the same too :)